If he doesn’t look for you, he doesn’t like you!

 I went to rent a movie at a video store that is next to my house. After digging for a while I decided to take the romantic comedy “He’s just Not That Into You.” In Spanish is called “A el no le Gustas Tanto.” Every woman who belongs to the club of single women can benefit greatly from this exciting film, which shows you, among many things, if someone is really interested in you.

The film begins with a tearful and distraught little girl who tells her mom, “That boy pushed me and does not want play with me, and says I smell like dog shit”. The mother reassuringly says, “do not take it liket that, when a boy treats you badly its because he likes you and does not know how to prove it.” The mistake that this woman and many other mothers is that they unwittingly give their daughters to understand the contempt that are synonymous with “I like you a lot.” The problem is that once these young girls become adults still believe that the abuses are demonstrations of love. This explains why so many are looking for excuses to explain the behavior of an indifferent suitor.

We all know a girl who, for example, came out of date, and she said, the chemistry between them was spectacular, however, did not receive a second call and starts plotting excuses to justify the loss of her lover: “maybe he lost my phone number,” “he is very busy with his work,” “is recovering from his last relationship.”

To soothe the pain of not being reciprocated, we justify indifference, rejection and avoidance of a man with thousands of excuses. But I warn you, when a man is truly interested in you, there is absolutely nothing standing in your way to find and conquer, I repeat NOTHING! Any excuse you give for not being with you is a “civil” contempt. The cruel reality is: if he is not looking for you, he does not like you AND THAT’S THE END OF IT!

My advice is that if a man has dismissed you or has left you hanging, do not give him another chance. And if after being out for a long time still says, “I’m not sure what I want” let him go!

Nor should you accept to be with a man who is not fully available, whether he has a girlfriend, is committed or married. If he is not all yours, he still belongs to another woman.

Stop deceiving yourself! Do not waste time with those who do not appreciate you. Date and come to respect someone who puts you first, and would die to be with you. Do not settle for less!

Maria Marin is motivating and author of “Ask for more, wait longer and get more.” For more tips visit: www.MariaMarin.com

This post is also available in: Spanish