Tips for choosing your damas and chambelanes

If there is a specific part on the process of planning your Quince party to prove you are a woman, it has to be choosing wisely the members of your entourage. Whether they are your friends, siblings, cousins or close family members, you have to take full responsibility of this important decision, both your party’s success as well as your mental stability rely on it. Here are a few tips to make this process easier and have your dream entourage of damas and chambelanes.

1- Talk to your parents and determine the size of your entourage. Then you will know how many members you have to pick for this important moment in your life.

2- Is your entourage: You have to remember this is your party. Is your dream come true so you want to always get your point across but no drama!

3- Learn to control your emotions before getting defensive with your parents or any other member of your family or entourage. Think before you speak, write your thoughts on paper first, then your reasons to hesitate and let your parents know without any drama or immature behavior.

4- If you have too many candidates, make a preliminary list, you can write their names and reasons why they should be part of your entourage as well as their priority over other candidates. You can even grade them on a scale from 1 to 10 to make the evaluation process a bit more precise.

5- Once you make your decision, prepare yourself. Invite the candidate out for lunch, do not compromise them if they do not want accept your invite. Prepare yourself mentally in case you get a no for an answer. Do not get offended if they do not want to be part of your entourage it is not just up to them but to their parents. Keep in mind being part of a Quinceanera’s entourage means money, dance rehearsals or perhaps even private aspects of their lives, maybe event they’re too shy to dance or don’t enjoy it. Whatever the reason is do not take it personally.

6- Keep an open mind- Rehearsing with your entourage, agreeing on every single detail and getting along with everyone is not an easy task. Keep in mind they each have different personalities and interests, listen to them equally without giving preference to some.

7- Stay alert. Identify issues sooner than later. Hopefully this won’t be the case but if there is a rotten apple, make sure to get it out of the box discretely but most importantly cordially asap!

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